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Show, Day 1

It was slow. What can I say? Pretty much we were all in agree­ment — even Audrey, when she came and browsed late in the after­noon, said it had been slow. Of course, we have had shows with slow Sat­ur­days before, and they have usu­ally been fol­lowed by good Sun­days, so we shall remain optimistic.

In the qui­eter moments today, I had chances to chat with some of the other ven­dors there. I found out from Kim St. Jean when she will be teach­ing at William Hol­land Retreat next sum­mer (the last three weeks of July!) so I can account for that in my sum­mer plans. I had a nice lit­tle visit with my lit­tle buddy Chase St. Jean, who actu­ally DID remem­ber me from back in August. I even made another chain­maille bracelet, my first one in open round­maille, using mixed color nio­bium rings.

Even though it wasn’t ter­ri­bly busy I came home exhausted, so it’s really time to go ahead and turn in. Cross­ing my fin­gers for tomorrow!

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In case you didn’t notice it, there was no blog post last night. It was a crazy but fun day, but at the end both Dee and I were wiped out.

I got up yes­ter­day and got on over to Roanoke Col­lege to make sure my pro­gram­ming team was ready to com­pete and to answer any ques­tions they might have. Once I’d done what I could there, I went back to the hotel, picked up Dee, and checked out. We then headed for the yarn store near the air­port that Linda Davis (the Roanoke CS depart­ment sec­re­tary, a FABULOUS and woe­fully under­paid per­son) had highly rec­om­mended. We shopped a bit and then went back to the col­lege to hang out, schmooze, have lunch, and wait for the con­test to end.

As for the con­test out­come, this wasn’t one of GPC’s more stel­lar performances…in fact it was a bit abysmal in that they tied for last place. The guys appeared to have a good time, though, and they cer­tainly made an, ah, impres­sion on the other teams and coaches ::wince::.

Once the prizes & such were awarded, we got on the road. Our ini­tial plan had been to head for the Blue Ridge Park­way and take that over to I-77, but when Dee found that I had never been to Floyd, VA, she stated that we MUST go there on the way, as Floyd is appar­ently the Artsy Hip­pie Cen­ter of Vir­ginia. We did get our bucolic coun­try back­roads drive, just on U.S. 220 instead.

Floyd is a lovely lit­tle one-stoplight town, wor­thy of a full day of explor­ing instead of the hour and a half we spent. Dee intro­duced me to the Win­ter­Sun out­let, where I bought two batik tops, and we vis­ited the Floyd Coun­try Store and the local nat­ural foods store.

Once they started rolling up the side­walks at 5 p.m., we got back on U.S. 220 headed for Hillsville and I-77. Dri­ving two-lane coun­try high­ways after dark is not my favorite thing to do, but I def­i­nitely see bet­ter in the dark than Dee so I was the D.D. Head­ing south on I-77 down that lovely steep eight-mile grade into North Car­olina and on towards Char­lotte, past the bazil­lion bill­boards adver­tis­ing JR Dis­count What­ever, it grew darker and darker.

Around Mooresville we finally decided that, it being 8 p.m., enough was enough, and found a Sleep Inn next door to a Carrabba’s. It was a good thing we walked to the Carrabba’s, because a sin­gle glass of Ital­ian San­gria with our tasty (albeit delayed due to a wait) din­ner was enough to put us both out like light­bulbs when we got back up to our room. Even if I had remem­bered about blog­ging in my fuzzy brain, my eyes weren’t focus­ing and my eye­lids felt like forty pound weights.

So that’s my story, and I AM stick­ing to it!

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Besides Gary, there’s one other crit­i­cal per­son asso­ci­ated with my busi­ness — my occa­sional busi­ness part­ner Andrea, of Four Tails Lam­p­work. Although we have sep­a­rate online busi­nesses, we team up to do shows, and that works out VERY well for us.

One rea­son is that our styles of work are com­pli­men­tary but not copy-cat; she works mostly in soft glass and I work mostly in boro, and we both exploit the char­ac­ter­is­tics of our cho­sen glass as much as possible.

Hav­ing a sec­ond per­son there to “share the load,” so to speak, makes doing shows when both of you have a full-time Sort-of-Day Job pos­si­ble. At our last show, Andrea’s job actu­ally got seri­ously in the way to the point that on both Fri­day and Sat­ur­day she couldn’t get to the show until mid-afternoon. With­out the part­ner­ship she would have had to can­cel, but with two of us I could han­dle things (with help, of course, from Gary) until she got there. In return, I got to sleep in a bit on Sun­day, which I muchly needed! It also makes it pos­si­ble to make a bath­room run with­out wor­ry­ing, or to take a walk around to peruse and schmooze the other vendors.

We also have com­pli­men­tary strengths and weak­nesses. She’s bet­ter than I am at the schmooz­ing; I’m bet­ter with the num­bers. So Andrea does the bulk of the meet-and-greet and I han­dle the account­ing, and we’re both happy.

Of course, we get along very well! If we didn’t, none of the above would mat­ter at all because we wouldn’t be able to work together!

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Old friends

I’ve always had a bit of envy for those peo­ple who can main­tain life­time friend­ships. You know the ones. They’re well into adult­hood, but still BFF with their child­hood playmates/high school pals/college room­mates even through the years and the miles. I have a hard enough time mak­ing friends, but it seems I have an even harder time keep­ing them.


(One friend­ship from grad­u­ate school did endure for twenty-plus years. Though nei­ther Tanya nor I was good about keep­ing in fre­quent con­tact, we’d touch bases every year or two. It was quite a shock, then, to read about her death in the alumni newslet­ter two years ago.)

So many of my friend­ships of the past seemed based on being at the same place at the same time. There was one group, though, that I really thought would be my BFF — a group of fiber artists that met online in the early ‘90s, coa­lesced into a tight cir­cle of seven women over sev­eral years, gath­ered F2F when­ever we could man­age given that we lived all over the con­ti­nent (and in one case beyond). We cheered each other, sup­ported each other, pro­vided shoul­ders, ears, and the occa­sional kick in the butt for each other as we all worked our way through our respec­tive spouse prob­lems, employ­ment issues, child-rearing dilem­mas and the mud­dled messes of life. I would have had a much more dif­fi­cult time get­ting through my divorce, rebuild­ing my life, and bat­tling the major depres­sive episode of 2002–2003 with­out them. I’m not sure I could have done it.

I met DH in August 2003, and sud­denly had some­one else I could count on for sup­port. I didn’t have Rela­tion­ship Prob­lems any more; my kid was off at col­lege and not con­stantly in my hair; my depres­sion was under con­trol; the Weav­ing Muse had wan­dered off to parts unknown. When DH and I mar­ried in sum­mer 2004, most of the Group came to our wed­ding. But things felt strained — some of the cama­raderie was miss­ing. The con­stant stream of chatty emails was falling off, and finally came to a screech­ing halt the next late spring, at least in my inbox and one other.

Five of the Group are appar­ently still hang­ing out together — they all went to Con­ver­gence together this sum­mer. The other two of us still don’t know why we were dropped, and we both feel like we were, in fact, delib­er­ately dropped.? I don’t know if it was some­thing I did, if I changed too much with­out real­iz­ing it, or if it just happened.

In the end, it’s another friend­ship that I thought would last, gone. Poof.

What is it about friend­ship that, evi­dently, I don’t Get?






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Tagged!

Okay, just when I was start­ing to feel a bit left out, I’ve been tagged by my friend Marcy Lam­ber­son of Stu­dio Marcy, who makes totally adorable sculp­tural beads.

The rules for this tag­ging are:

  1. Link to your tag­ger and list these rules on your blog.
  2. Share 7 facts about your­self on your blog, some ran­dom, some weird.
  3. Tag 7 peo­ple at the end of your post by includ­ing links to their blogs.
  4. Let them know they have been tagged by leav­ing a com­ment on their blogs.

So, seven ran­dom and/or weird fac­toids about me:

  1. I often drive faster than the speed limit, but I’ve never got­ten a ticket for it.
  2. Most peo­ple think I’m about ten years younger than I really am.
  3. I can’t stand hav­ing cold feet.
  4. I very much like beards on men, but only if they are well-groomed (like DH’s, unlike the ex’s :-) ).
  5. When I eat tomato sauce, it makes the inside of my nose and sinuses feel tickle-y.
  6. I am aller­gic to Toys ‘r’ Us and Bed Bath & Beyond.? Seri­ously.? If I go into one of those stores, my sinuses close up and my eyes get all puffy and swollen.
  7. I love writ­ing with funky col­ored pens.

Seven fel­low blog­gers that I am tag­ging (try­ing not to tag those who have already been tagged!):

  1. Lau­rie
  2. Robin
  3. Usagi­Weaver
  4. Mike
    Damn, this is get­ting tough! Melissa has beaten me to everyone!
  5. Gwa­cie
  6. Lydia
  7. Judith

Now to go fin­ish leav­ing those comments…






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